I Miss You Already SOSS

Our high school burned down this morning.  My husband woke me a bit before 5AM and told me it was ablaze.  I jumped out of bed, went to the window and 4 kms away seemed like next door.  The flames were so high and the fire so large.  At that instant your mind races through the scenarios…Is my 6 year old’s elementary school on fire too? (it was right next door)  How much of the high school is gone?  Has it spread to the historical Venables Auditorium? Where will the students go today to learn? Where will they go tomorrow?

Of course it goes without saying that we are blessed in Oliver in that no one was hurt in the fire.  We were blessed that no one was hurt when the historic Oliver Hotel burned down last year and when the Testalinda mudslide came roaring down our Western ridge in June 2010.  Yes we are blessed and I understand that.

But I have come to understand today that although we are blessed and lucky, we are also grieving–and we should be allowed to grieve for the loss of SOSS (South Okanagan Secondary School) without being made to feel like it is a silly thing to do just because it was a building.

Our high school was a building that gave many in our community a sense of pride every time they saw it.  Yes we are a small town but we had a great, well-equipped high school that taught people from throughout Okanagan Falls, Oliver and Osoyoos–the entire south end of the Okanagan Valley.  People in larger cities can never understand how buildings like this become our focal point and help to define us.  The big rounded art deco Venables Auditorium was a meeting place for the entire community.  Aside from how it was used for the high school it hosted theater plays, traveling musicians, Christmas concerts for the elementary school (two for my child), community meetings and even citizenship ceremonies (including mine on October 17, 2002).

I remember vying for a seat last December in the Auditorium for our daughter’s Christmas concert and I was thinking–wow, is everyone going to fit in here?  And they all did.  The balcony even filled up with anxious parents.  I remember thinking “What a great building this is.  I will love to watch my daughter grow up in this space”.  I felt a connection with the generations of other parents who had watched their children belt out songs in the place.  I was becoming a part of Oliver’s history.

I am sad tonight and damn it I am proud to be sad.  I am proud to live in a community that mourns its loss of community and doesn’t just let it fade away due to budget cuts or upgrades or putting in larger parking lots.  I am proud to live in a place that mourns a school that did not have graffiti covering its walls before it fell to the ground.  I am proud to live in a place that feels a real sense of loss, bewilderment and genuine confusion over how 350 young adults will carve out a sense of empowerment this year–how those students will stay together to build their own sense of community in a fractured learning environment.  I am proud that people in our tiny corner of the world are grieving the loss of a building that meant so much more to all of us.

I drove downtown today and could no longer see the crown jewel of Oliver sitting on the hill rising above our main street.  And I am not ashamed to say, I had to pull over and cry before continuing back to the winery.

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10 Responses to I Miss You Already SOSS

  1. ramona says:

    I heard about the fire through my twitter feed. Thanks for all the updates. I am incredibly sad tonight. I attended SOSS and while highschool – the time – is not my favourite piece of personal history – I love the school and have fond memories of the auditorium and walking up the hill every day to attend my classes.

    • I never enjoyed my high school years either–funny you’d write that. I’m glad that you have fond memories of SOSS. I’ve heard from people across BC that went there through twitter and it is really amazing how many were touched by that school.

  2. Jo Tanner says:

    Well said Sandy the great loss of the High School is so huge what is even sadder is many students took there school supplies to the school And many are from low income families and to replace. These supplies is huge for sum would it be great to see community again show it’s unity to help these students

    • I think the businesses are looking for a focussed way to give real help now to the students and teachers and your idea of donating school supplies is a great start. Thank you and I will pass along tomorrow.

  3. my thoughts are with your community.
    I still follow the news of my hometown in Michigan, (I’m in Ohio now), and I have similar feelings at such losses in my hometown.
    You are right for your grief and very right for your concern for the children’s future.
    I wish more were as concerned for their future as you are.

  4. Well done Sandra. People that come from small towns know what this means to their communities. Like you said in your blog it’s a place of many good memories and one that people will always remember. You have every right to grieve what has happened in your community. It’s a huge loss..It’s a piece of your history of their history. The one thing is your town will come back stronger than every because they have pride in their community. Our prayers are with your community and the students that attended the school. God bless you Tracey

  5. Your words are very comforting tonight. I wish everyone in Oliver could read them!

  6. I don’t live in Oliver but I work there, and I’ve only worked there for 4 months, but I too shed a tear of sadness this morning as I drove past. Oliver has such an impressive sense of community and I feel blessed to even drive through it!

  7. Jeannette says:

    As always, written with your heart on your sleeve while holding an idea firmly between your teeth – it’s one of the things I truly love about you and your writing. Take-no-prisoners style.

    The loss of SOSS is multi-layered, and complicated. In a town battered by so many elements, our community remains stalwart. We grieve for more than a post-and-beam structure. Thank you for sharing this window into why.

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